Here’s a quiz for you. In which film do we hear the phrase: “Love means never having to say you’re sorry”?
If you haven’t got it, I’ll leave you in suspense for a little longer.
Do you remember the cartoons which had as the caption; ‘Love is’ and then at the bottom of the cartoon something
describing one aspect of love.
For example; ‘Love is… Feeling richer than Rockefeller.’
In 1 Corinthians 13 Paul describes love; here’s a taster.
‘Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.’
In a loving relationship everyone flourishes. Adults, children, parents, grandparents, everyone. But what, is love, actually? The dictionary defines love as:
- an intense feeling of deep affection.
- a great interest and pleasure in something.
- like or enjoy very much.
I’m not sure they really hit the mark. Even Paul’s wonderful chapter doesn’t define what love is; everything above describes a consequence of love. I’m sure many of us have experienced the great affection for another, or the passion for football; one definition from the dictionary is ‘to love dancing?’
These are all expressions of love, but they don’t explain what love is. Love is that indefinable something which we experience but struggle to explain. It is one of the most powerful emotions we have.
We love because we are made in the image of a God of love: 1 John 4:8
“Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.”
Love is unexplainable if we are the result of Evolution. Why would we need love if it was all random and survival of the fittest. At the moment the world feels full of anger and hate and that can crush our faith in human nature. But in all the images of violence we see caring people trying to support the injured and damaged. Charities and medical personnel there in the midst of the bombing seeking to help and care for the injured and vulnerable.
About the quiz; before I tell you where the quote comes from, do you agree with it?
I don’t, I actually think it’s nonsense, but sadly it’s what so many people today think is true. ‘If you love me, you’ll forgive me;’ may be said by the abuser, but the unspoken remark which follows, ‘even when I know what I’ve done is wrong.’ There seems to be something humiliating in admitting we have made a mistake,
hurt someone or caused offence. In the current violence, admission of wrong would have a powerful impact. Saying sorry, requires humility, and yet it can be the most powerful antidote to anger, frustration and hurt. Sadly pride, another powerful emotion gets in the way.
I prefer the cartoon ‘Love is… Caring for others.’
The film from which the quote comes: ‘Love Story.’